Here’s what I hear the most from the couples who come to work with me as a couple & one-on-one:
They’ve worked their asses off in their lives to have a great career, maybe the “ideal” family, you know a house, dog, 2.3 kids, two cars, and a white picket fence and everyone around them seems to think they have it ALL together. But inside they’re feeling:
I totally and 100% understand this because I experienced these same feelings and more as I failed at relationshipping.
I people-pleased, smiled constantly, and performed constantly in order to feel a part of the relationship and keep the peace ofcourse. And when it didn’t work, I tried all of those things harder. And thus became an accepted lifestyle because I wanted a happy loving relationship SO BAD!
Until I had that personal moment that come to Jesus moment when I had to check myself and say "Enough is Enough!" I dove deep into my thoughts, behaviors, and did serious inner-work. I had to unlearn that way of being and re-learned a new way of living.
Now, my life is by no means perfect. I still hit hard times. I still find myself in situations that I mentioned above just not as often. But, the difference is that I don’t live there anymore.
I’ve learned a whole new way of LIVING and have the tools to build and maintain a strong foundation for resilience towards my happiness.
And it’s completely and totally possible for you to learn, do, and have it too. If you did, your life could look like this:
I’ve combined 12 years of experience working with hundreds of individuals and couples, plus my training and certification with The Transformation Coach Academy to bring you The Performance Code signature coaching program
HOW YOUR LIFE
WILL BE DIFFERENT:
Most couples live their life coming from a place of needs, desires, and unfortunately fear. Messages like,
“I'm not ______ enough.”
“I can do this all myself,
I don't need you help.”
“I need to be better at _____,
so that I can _____.”
“If only _____ were different,
then I would be happy.”
And if you’re still reading, you’re likely at a place where you’re tired of believing these messages. It’s exhausting, and you deserve so much more and so much better.
What our work together will accomplish is a deep dive into why you feel the way you do about why you live the way you live your life. Then we will dive into the relationship life you envision living and begin bridging that gap between the two. I then teach you and your partner the tools necessary to live your life from a place of confidence instead, all the while I’m with you supporting you in practicing these tools in real-life scenarios.
You’ll get a complete understanding on what it looks like to think and behave differently in a way that makes you proud to be the couple you are. This work is about learning healthy lifestyle behaviors. Practicing them (with my help), getting it right, then not so right, trying & trying again, and gaining the confidence that you can be different and feel better. All of this helps you have a better relationship, be more confident in the relationship, and have a better sense of self-worth.
Working with Dearic has changed my whole mindset! Over the past few weeks I have had some painful realizations, but am so encouraged by the growth I see in myself! Learning to value myself and the relationships that are important to me is truly a blessing!
I just completed the 8 session life coaching program with Dearic and WOW can I see and feel the difference in my overall joy and happiness!
I was stuck in the endless cycle of wanting more, wanting to change my life, but not knowing how. I was hesitant to reach out to Dearic as I was not sure what to expect. I'm so glad I decided to take that leap of faith and invest in myself. The one-on-one coaching, practical tools, and meaningful exercises Dearic provides in his program create tangible change. Change can feel overwhelming but Dearic was there every step of the way - guiding, motivating, and cheering me on!
I have no doubt had I not made that phone call I would be waking up today feeling the same stuck, unhappy, hopeless feeling. But instead I'm feeling the most joyful and happiest I have ever felt!
WHO IS THIS GOOD FOR?
A couple who wants to let go of unrealistic expectations and learn how to communicate better in the relationship.
A couple that wants to stop the "yes man" mentality, stop the blame game. the proving, and performing that in not a true presentation of self. FINALLY.
A couple that is not living two different lives and that gives into past insecurities that prevent the relationship from growing.
A couple that wants to appreciate their partner's strengths and weaknesses instead of taking them for granted. As well as understanding the power of their natural-born roles.